Happy Wednesday, my friends! Today I have something a little different for you. Hannah from the darling Just Bee Blog and I had the idea to swap blogs for the day and write a letter back in time to ourselves on our wedding days. She and I connected over our husband's odd names (Hans and Bjorn!) and we've both been married a little over a year. Celebrating marriage with her is an honor!
Today is your wedding day!! Today, you finally - finally! - get to marry your best friend! This is a dream you've had your entire life, and you clung to it, even when it seemed so hard to find. For you, it was the way to go. Now you get to walk down the aisle to your dear Bjorn, the one who holds your heart and the one who knows you and loves you best.
Marriage will bless you in many ways. It'll bless you in ways you expect - like quiet evenings together and getting to do daily life with your man. But even more so, Hannah, it'll bless you in ways you never would've expected.
Lean in close, and I'll give you a couple snapshots of what this life together will look like!
There'll be countless evenings spent cooking supper together. Even more evenings spent sitting in comfortable silence reading or working together. There'll be long car rides spent reading books aloud, slow dances in the kitchen to the record player…or to no music at all. There'll be arguments (you'll call them "discussions") and tickle fights and picking up each others' mess and dropping each other off at work. And there will be dreaming of what is to come - oh, the dreaming. You have never held such happy, ambitious dreams in your palm before you met Bjorn. Sometimes, there'll be silence - the unhappy kind - as you two sort out what it really means to live - with a commitment of permanence - alongside another flawed, sinful human. Yes, there will be tears. But there will also be minutes upon minutes of laughter and eyes shining bright because this other person really gets you. And your favorite Beach Boys' lyric will come true: "We can say goodnight and stay together." :)
You've heard that marriage is like someone holding a magnifying glass to you - nowhere else will your flaws and sins and stumblings be so evident. But then, in those discouraging, vulnerable - even embarrassing - moments that will come, do not forget this truth:
Marriage allows you to be both fully known AND fully loved.
Let that sink in for a moment. You've wondered what people meant when they said marriage is a reflection of Christ's love for the church. Part of that idea rests in this - the safest, most fulfilling place to be is where you are fully known, messes and ugly tears and frustration and all - AND fully loved in spite of those raw, icky facets of your heart. Bjorn will do this so incredibly well, gathering up those weary, vulnerable pieces of you and holding you so tight you are put back together again in his love. You will find yourself thanking the Lord again and again for His knowledge and the way He prepared you two for each other. And times will come - sooner than you think - when Bjorn will be weary or grieving and will need to lean on your support and your love.
Yes, Hannah, marriage will be an incredible experience. Marriage is not just a fancy party on a sunny day in March. It's a God-orchestrated journey that you and Bjorn get to take together, step by step, until the day you reach heaven's gates. Praise be to the One who designed it all!
Now, what are you waiting for? Go walk down that aisle and hold the hands of that handsome man as he vows, with tears glinting in his eyes, that he's ready to do this crazy thing called life together!
The same-but-changed Hannah, 1 year later
I won't look while you wipe away those tears ;) You can read my post on Hannah's blog right here.
If you could write a letter back in time to yourself on a significant day of your life, what would you say?