Have you ever exited out of Facebook and thought, "Gee, that was a really encouraging 47 minutes of my life?"
Yeah, me neither.
One study found that "those who have used Facebook longer agreed more that others were happier, and agreed less that life is fair, and...agreed more that others were happier and had better lives."
Another study reveals that the urge to check your Facebook feed is as addictive as cigarettes and alcohol.
According to this, 48% of us check Facebook as soon as we get up.
Sounds to me like it's time to call it quits.
At the beginning of 2014, I decided to do an experiment where I would only get on Facebook once a month. Not going to lie, it was super hard at first. I was so used to popping it open when I was bored, or posting something when I was insecure and wanted affirmation (yuck).
I needed more simplicity in my life. My feed was constantly bogged down with passive aggressive statuses, pictures of people I didn't know, or someone complaining about something. I would see someone else's super shiny/happy/exciting life, and ugly feelings of discontentment and comparison would creep in. It also felt sort of addicting, like I didn't know how to quit Facebook.
I learned that Facebook ...had wasted hours of my life. ...led too easily to comparison and discontentment. ...hardly ever left me feeling encouraged or inspired.
I finally decided it was time to take control.
By the end of 2014, I was only getting on Facebook every 2-3 months. Just long enough to check messages, post an update, and give my feed a quick scroll to see if anyone was engaged/pregnant/moving. Then - boop! - sign out and be on my merry way. I guess I haven't "quit" entirely, but I've definitely quit being controlled by Facebook.
There is such freedom in that. Also? It isn't as hard as you think. Here's how to quit Facebook in five simple steps...
- Know your Why. What is your reason for wanting to quit Facebook? Whether it's more time for creative pursuits or face-to-face time with friends, or just because you're tired of feeling like your online life doesn't "measure up" to everyone else's. There are great reasons to be off of Facebook, so keep them in mind when you're tempted to get back on.
- Know it's going to be HARD...at first. Facebook withdrawal is a real thing, y'all. #firstworldproblems
- Delete the Facebook app from your phone. Just do it.
- Install the Messenger app. For me, one of the biggest problems with getting off of Facebook was that I would miss messages from people, inviting me to things or asking questions. The Messenger app is simply Facebook messages, nothing else. I treat it like email.
- Appoint a Keeper of the Password. Fancy-Schmanccy title, eh? If you feel like you'll be tempted to log back on more than you want to, have a close friend or your spouse change your password for you, and make them promise to only give it back once a week/month/whatever timeline you set for yourself. Boom! Instant accountability.
I hope this helps you take control of your online life, friend!